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When one thinks that he or she is above questioning, doubt, or that his or her mate should not evaluate their action, there is a problem.  How many times should one expose his or her concerns to the individual, how many conversations does one need about issues before he or she actively set forth to either correct, strengthen, or eradicate the situation? 
Is it proper for one to say that he or she is doing this or that out of love and then throw it in the other persons face every time it is convenient?  The one that is doing all of the remindings is forgetting that the other person has also inspired, supported, and helped him or her as well, without the ever-so-often reminders.  Life-lessons are supposed to teach the individual that experienced the situation better methods of dealing with situations as well as making one aware of the signs of trouble, mannerisms, and other red flags that are meant to be warning signs.  So why would one get upset with one that they say they love, it that person is being watchful, discerning, and knows when to draw a line or when to communicate a troubling concern?  It is my experience that if a person perceives that he or she is above questioning or doubt, then that individual has something to hide or that person just believe that you should blindly be lead around like a sheep going to the slaughter.   Instincts are powerful, that inner warning can save a person from a lot of trouble, heart-ache, or from certain pitfalls.

Listening to one’s heart other than your own can cause one to easily be misled or misused, for one is to NEVER  say what another individual will and will not do, allow the other person’s actions, company, and conversations to speak volumes for them.  Not your own heart that could be misguided by emotions or false dreams.  With that being said, when someone quickly states to you about question them or an action that you have falsely accused them or that you don’t trust them; quickly reply back with that we should be able to talk about anything and that we have concerns about.  And if it quacks like a duck or cluck like a chicken than you had better investigate, for we shall know them by their fruits.   Know your deal breakers and what makes you uncomfortable, speak on specifics and don’t cast blame (use I, instead of you).  And do not allow your concerns to be cast off as insignificant, hatch it out or walk it out, but don’t allow one to tell you that your thoughts, evaluations, or insights are irrelevant.    

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